When I saw that John and Stasi Eldredge had a new book out called Love & War: Finding the Marriage You Dream Of, I jumped at the chance to review it. My husband and I have several of their other books—and those books are ones I have read or will read more than once. The flyleaf of Love & War promises, “What the Eldredge bestsellers Wild at Heart did for men and Captivating did for women, Love & War will do for married couples everywhere.”
With their usual openness about their own struggles (including the difficulties of writing a book about marriage together) and a good dose of humour, John and Stasi delve into what marriage means to God. They point out that the Bible begins and ends with a marriage; that marriage is a reflection of God’s deep desire for relationship; and that anything God deems important, Satan attacks.
Taking the concepts they discussed in Wild at Heart and Captivating, they show how these affect our marriage relationships. Marriage is the perfect fulfillment of the deepest desires of the hearts of men and women—in a perfect Eden. They also show the reality of marriage, how hard it is for two completely different people to live so close together: “It can feel like desperately trying to mix oil and water. Or something more combustible.”
John and Stasi use Scriptures, quotes from other great writers, fairy tales we’ve all heard and movies we’ve all watched, and their own experience to illustrate the concepts they discuss. It also felt like if a couple like John and Stasi can admit their own marriage struggles and thoughts of divorce, then there’s hope for the rest of us. Like their other books, I know I’ll be reading Love & War again and recommending it to all my married friends.
For more information on John and Stasi or their books, check out their website.
This was book was provided for review by WaterBrook Multnomah.