Jade’s cheerful toddler smile shines out from between two bright red cheeks. Last weekend, a fellow we met glanced down at her and asked, “Oh, is she teething? Our kids always looked like that when they were teething.” I wanted to say she’s almost 3 so she’s not teething, but I just smiled and answered, “No, she has eczema.”
It’s taken us almost two years to reach that conclusion. The rash on her cheeks first appeared when we went back to Alberta for her first Christmas. She was 9 months old at the time, and I thought maybe the switch from wet coastal weather to dry prairie weather caused the sudden reaction in her skin. However, when we returned to BC, the rash didn’t clear up, so I blamed dairy.
Jade was just beginning to eat solids then, picking food from our plates as it interested her. For Christmas, everyone made mashed potatoes and that was one of the easiest things to feed a 9-month-old baby. Of course, the mashed potatoes were also full of butter and milk. I didn’t introduce dairy to the other girls until they were past 1 year, so I thought maybe Jade’s system just couldn’t handle it yet.
I tried to eliminate dairy from our diet, but it seemed once she’d started it, I couldn’t stop it. Her older sisters had cheese or yogurt and she got some. And because I was nursing, I also needed to stop eating it myself. I’d go to Starbucks, order a latte, and drink half of it before remembering that I should’ve gotten soy. So Jade kept eating dairy, and her rash, while it sometimes seemed to get a bit better, never totally went away.
Finally, in the spring, I took her to see our doctor. She diagnosed a secondary infection and prescribed antibiotics and hydrocortisone cream to clear up the rash. Eczema was mentioned at the time, but our doctor didn’t seem to think it was that. She referred us to an allergist. However, it took several months to get in to see the allergist. By the time we got there, Jade’s cheeks were clean and smooth as they were supposed to be. She didn’t react at all to the allergy tests (not even a cry for the pricks!) and the allergy doctor told us, “Well, I’m sorry she’s healthy, because I can’t help you.”
All that summer, Jade’s skin was fine. That winter, she had dry skin again, but I was able to treat it by doing a daily lotion routine. Every night before putting Jade to bed, I slathered her arms, legs and torso with lotion. When summer came, I started to get lazy with Jade’s skincare routine, but it didn’t seem to matter. We stopped doing the lotion and her skin was fine.
Then winter hit again. Jade began scratching her arms, sometimes making them bleed, which looked terrible (even if it was a small scratch). Then she began scratching her bum and developed what I thought was a bad diaper rash. I switched from cloth diapers to disposable diapers and back again, tried different creams, but the diaper rash continued. Finally, I went cold turkey with the diapers and decided we’d toilet train. That resulted in great frustration for both of us for about a week, before Lily got involved with the potty training.
Now I had a potty trained toddler, but her skin was still terrible—and the rash was back on her cheeks. So we made the trek across the city to see our doctor. She again diagnosed a secondary infection (because of Jade scratching the rash) and referred us to a pediatrician. The oral and topical antibiotics cleared up Jade’s skin except for her cheeks.
We were able to see the pediatrician within two weeks. She carefully checked over Jade’s skin and listened to my recital of Jade’s problems. I remember, just a few days after Jade’s birth, asking my midwife about the dry skin on Jade’s hands. I hadn’t noticed that with my older two girls when they were born. My midwife suggested using whatever lotion I used for myself. So Jade has had dry skin from birth. The pediatrician said it was eczema.
With that diagnosis, I felt a great deal of relief. While I’m not happy she has eczema, at least I now know what I’m dealing with. Trying to treat her rashes and scratching and other skin problems had been frustrating when I didn’t know what it was or what was causing it. Knowing that it is all related to eczema gives me something to research, something to fight.
Having the diagnosis also makes me wonder why we didn’t figure it out sooner. However, Jade’s eczema doesn’t look like the eczema that my friend’s daughters have. Since it cleared up in the summer, I’d forget about it. Eczema is also usually considered genetic, and I didn’t think anyone in our family had it. I’ve since realized that we do have family members who have skin problems.
My past few months have been spent researching eczema and trying to find out what causes Jade’s skin to flare up. This is just the start of her diagnosis and our attempts to treat it, so I’ll be sharing more about it as we learn more.
Do you or your child suffer from eczema or dry skin? What has helped you to diagnose the problem and treat it?
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I have it, and I would say its the winter (how dry it is in SK). I usually have special cream for my scalp that I have to use daily but when I went to PR one year for a week, I did not use it at all!!! And most lotions on my skin make me itch like crazy, so I don’t put anything on
It does seem to be seasonal with Jade too. I’ve noticed it get worse in the winter with her. However, Vancouver is so wet during the winter that it doesn’t totally make sense to me! 🙂
My daughter developed mild eczema on her upper arms as a toddler, and I found Rocky Mountain Soap’s Body Butter worked well to keep it under control. Countless people swear by this company’s Pumpkin soap in combination with the Body Butter for eliminating eczema. Definitely worth a try – their line of products are all natural & toxin free.
Thanks for the recommendation! I’ve heard other good things about Rocky Mountain Soap so I’ll have to check it out. 🙂
My daughter had eczema as early as 3 months old. I remember putting socks on her hands when she was teething so she wouldn’t irritate her skin, even her own saliva was bad on her skin. She’s now 14 and has outgrown it. She gets an occasional flare-up but nothing that lasts more than 2 days. She’s used Dove sensitive soap her entire life and Eucerine Cream. We never changed her diet. We did try the steroid creams for a bit when she was about 8 months and that helped tremendously. No one in my family had eczema either so I was shocked when she had it. Glad you were able to get a diagnosis. I remember how awful it was for me to see her skin break and bleed during her flare ups.
We’ve been using the Eucerine cream as well and I usually use Dove for my own skin (it’s the only soap my mother-in-law uses). For me the frustrating part was not knowing why she was scratching her skin and making it bleed. It’s hard to see them suffer but when I know the cause, then I feel like it’s easier to find ways to treat it. 🙂 Thanks for sharing! I’m glad your daughters is getting better.
Poor baby, and poor mama.
Have you ever tried the Arbonne baby line of products? They help people dealing with eczema. My baby doesn’t have eczema, but it’s the only products I will use on my child. I’ve seen lots of photos of before and afters. It could be worth a try to help Jade.
Thanks so much for sending the products for Jade to try! I agree that skincare products are so important for everyone but especially when dealing with eczema. I try to be careful about what I use on Jade’s skin. 🙂
poor little peanut. 🙁 Jr’s skin was also bad from birth. His legs were scaly – like a lizard. So was his head, and it got worse from there. His butt was peeling OFF in the cloth diapers we had him in – it looked like a layer of skin had been pulled off. When he was little, the bend behind his knees cracked, got all crazy red and sweaty and got infected. Every inch of his body was a mess.
I kept him dry, no baths. I switched to disposable diapers (which DID help his bum). I tried 1 zillion different creams and oils that everyone gave me because it worked for them / their kids. Nothing worked.
Finally we got to a dermatologist. He said to bathe Jr 4-6 times a day in a lukewarm bath w/ some special oil for 5 mins at a time combined with a slather of vaseline as soon as he got out and some steroid cream on the bad patches. No soap. Only 100% cotton clothes. Fragrance free laundry soap. It helped (although vaseline made him rash up all speckly, so we stopped that asap). I almost cried when I felt his smooth baby legs.
It can be seasonal, the dr told us that too.
Jr is so much better now. Much more under control. He still gets scaly patches, and breaks out in rashes easily – especially when he’s been playing in water in the summer for example and had on a wet shirt for too long, or if I stick him in sweatpants (which are polyester, not cotton). I just bathe him, cream him up, slap on his betaderm ointment, and leave him pantless lol.
I’m glad that you have a solution for your little one. I hope you can find a way to help keep it under control. <3
Lisa Marie – right now we’re keeping it under control, but I’m trying to figure out what’s causing it. We’re on a diet right now to see if it’s food-related. I’ll write more about that later – when I figure it out!!! 🙂 I’m glad you had a doctor who was able to help with your son’s skin. That sounds terrible! It’s so hard to see them hurting and not be able to help them.
I had excema as a child, but it wasn’t too serious. Zinc (penatin) cream usually would clear it up. Coconut oil helped to soothe it.
Alanna – yes, I’ve used coconut oil for Jade too. I’m glad yours wasn’t too serious! 🙂