How to Forgive Your Husband {31 Days to a Happy Husband}

Today, I’m delighted to welcome my fellow Inscriber Ruth L. Snyder to share her advice on an important marriage topic: how to forgive your husband.

Forgive your husband (31 days to a Happy Husband)

Marriage has the potential to bring the greatest joy AND the greatest hurt. When two people open their hearts to each other, they allow themselves to become vulnerable. We all know that we are human. We all know that, “To err is human.” But sometimes it’s easy as husband and wife to allow things to come between us and hold grudges against each other. If we want to experience that great joy marriage can bring, we need to choose to forgive.

First Corinthians chapter 13 is often quoted at weddings, but in the daily grind of life we can forget.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NIV)

Love keeps no record of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13)

The Lord’s Prayer is another familiar Scripture that often rolls off our tongues. But do we really stop and think about what we’re saying? “And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.” (Matthew 6:12 NIV)

Forgiving is difficult.

When people wrong us or hurt us, we want to get even. We want them to hurt as much as we hurt. However, by holding grudges we only hurt ourselves.

Remember the parable of the unforgiving servant? (You can find it in Matthew 18:21-35.) In this story, a servant owed a huge amount of money that he would never be able to pay back. (Let’s say one million dollars.) He begged for mercy and the king forgave his debt. The forgiven servant had a buddy who owed him some money. (Let’s say one hundred dollars.) The forgiven servant demanded his friend pay him back. His buddy didn’t have the money and begged for mercy. The servant had just experienced forgiveness of his whole debt, but he refused to forgive his friend’s debt. When the king heard about the ungrateful servant, he threw him in prison and had him tortured until he could repay.

31 Days to a Happy Husband: Day 26 - Forgive Your Husband

I’ve read this story and wondered how the servant could be so dense. I mean, come on. He had a huge debt forgiven. Couldn’t he just be grateful and extend the same mercy he had received?

Somehow it feels different when my husband does something wrong or hurtful (even when it’s unintentional). Instead of focusing on God’s amazing love and forgiveness, I want to get even. Like that ungrateful servant, I want payment, NOW.

So how do you forgive your husband?

It’s a choice I have to make, relying on God for strength to forgive. Sometimes I will have to choose to forgive the same offense many times. I can ask God for a forgiving heart. I can ask God to replace my anger with His peace. I can choose to focus on the ways my husband blesses me. Forgiving my husband is hard some days, but the results are well worth it.

So today, I will choose to say, “I forgive you!” Will you join me?

31 Days to a Happy Husband

(Note: This post deals with forgiving your husband in situations where there is no abuse. If you are living with abuse in your marriage, please seek professional help.)

Ruth L. Snyder enjoys writing articles, devotionals, short stories, and Christian fiction. She is a member of The Word Guild and The Christian PEN. Ruth currently serves as the President of InScribe Christian Writers’ Fellowship. Her newest release is Uplifting Devotionals for Parents. Find out more at ruthlsnyder.com.

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  1. Brenda C Leyland November 3, 2014
    • Ruth L. Snyder November 12, 2014

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