As moms, we are on the go all day, every day. My youngest is the first up in the morning and my oldest is the last down at night, and in between those two events, I am getting kids dressed, fetching snacks and drinks, trying to get them to clean up their toys, doing the household chores, teaching school, running errands, managing my blog, and trying to keep my sanity.
I’ve come to realize that it’s okay to stop and nurture myself as a mom throughout the day. So much depends on me and my calm, and if I’m getting frazzled, nothing good happens!
So here are a few small ways that I make sure to nurture myself as a mom in my daily life.
1. Make a cup of tea or coffee.
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2. Establish a good bedtime routine.
My girls have a short, quick bedtime routine: jammies, potty, brush teeth and hair, story or prayers, goodnight. I joke that “Mommy clocks out at 7 pm” so they need to be in bed. Then I have a couple hours either to myself or to spend with my husband. I know bedtimes can be tricky for a variety of reasons, but I believe that bedtime routine is important for the girls as well as for me. I need that quiet time at the end of the day.
Just as important is my own bedtime routine. I turn into a monster when I don’t have enough sleep—and then I get sick. I can directly relate both my mood and that tickle at the back of my throat that signals a cold coming on to how much (or how little) sleep I got the night before. So both for myself and my family, I need to make sure that I get into bed at a reasonable time (as tempting as it is to stay up all night reading a book or writing another blog post!).
3. Have a quiet time.
When I had just Sunshine, I read The Idiot while nursing her. When I had Lily, I read more often to Sunshine while nursing. With Jade, however, I’ve gone back to reading while nursing, because Lily and Sunshine often play together when Jade needs me for five or ten minutes. Those quiet moments mid-day or before bed are treasured moments for us to snuggle and for me to read, whether I’m picking up a novel, nonfiction for moms or wives, or my Bible.
4. Do a hobby.
When I was a teenager, I had multiple creative hobbies. Now, I just write. And that’s enough. Most of my mom friends also have one thing they do to be creative and nurture themselves, whether it’s knitting, baking, photography, sewing, beading, or something else.
You might have to be creative in finding time to fit in your hobby (my friend who knits can do that while watching her kids play at the park, which if I tried would just end up in a mess of tangled yarn! I write while the girls are playing behind me, which makes proofreading a necessity at times) but even if you only have five or ten minutes in which to pick up your camera or paint brush, take those five or ten minutes. They will add up sooner or later into something you can be proud to have finished!
5. Call a friend.
I am terrible at phoning people. I’m much more likely to send a message via email or Facebook—but that lacks the personal touch and responsiveness of a greeting. Even just five minutes on the phone with a friend to say “Hey, let’s plan a playdate” or “I was thinking of you” often leaves me smiling and feeling better as a mom (especially if we’re both trying to get our kids to be quiet and stop asking us questions for two minutes so we can talk!).
How to you nurture yourself as a mom?
To see what was in my February Amoda tea box, check out my unboxing video:
I received this tea box courtesy of Amoda for this review; all opinions expressed are my own.